Really finding your stride, truly falling into a rhythm of doing what you like is not easy thing.

At least for me it wasn’t and it’s not.

There are some factors that come into play when striving to find your stride.

What do you like?

What are you good at?

What will make you some money or at least reasonably compensate you?

I believe those 3 things have to fall into place.

If one of those 3 things are off, then you’re going to be off.

There will be a sense of dread. A daily malaise that will cause you to have ups and downs.

With too many ups and downs, you won’t be stable.

Lack of stability will lead to failure.

Typically if you’re not good at something, you won’t like it. It’s not that you’ll start out the best in the world. But you will either have some natural talent or your talent develops over time.

What you do has to pay you. If there’s no compensation coming in, you won’t be able to live off of it. We all need the things; food, raiment, a roof over our heads.

The point of our work, at its basic function is so that we can survive.

Everything else is additional.

I don’t need to take a ski trip with my family to survive.

That’s a luxury.

We must get a reasonable amount of vitamins and nutrients in our stomach everyday or we won’t survive.

Nowadays we have a relatively safe feeling that we have the basics covered.

We’re striving for the additionals

But those “additional” shouldn’t control us. And shouldn’t they be worthy of striving for? Why are we working ourselves into the ground, to have more stuff? So stuff can have us?

Finding our stride cannot be because of others or for others.

We ultimately are the ones responsible for what we’re doing.

Especially if you live in the United States, you almost have no excuse on not striving to do what you want.

If you’re reasonably healthy and have a sound mind, the sky is the limit.

There are resources in abundance.

On the internet, you can find teaching after teaching after teaching.

Is there something you want to learn?

Stop doing one thing and spend that time learning a skill. I imagine if you searched your catalogue of activities, there’s something you could give up in order to learn something new.

There’s many ways we can free up time.

About 2 years ago I dropped Direct TV and cut my addiction to 24-hours news garbage. 24-hours news cycle, regardless of where you fall on the political spectrum, is a true time, mental and energy suck.

People are everywhere.

Not only can you rely on the internet, but there are real flesh and blood who will help you in a department of interest.

And…here’s the good part…you can use the internet to help you find these people.

Emailing or texting or messaging people and asking for them to share their time actually works. It won’t work with every single person, but it will with some.

Start out with the ones who answer and then build from there.

I used to have to find my stride with a fax machine and internet 2002.

In 2018, 2 weeks from 2019, excuses be damned.